About Aaron Wells, MFA, MA

Thoughts keep you going down the same rabbit hole.

Do the same thoughts keep recycling in your head, keeping you up at night?

“Is it me or my partner? Will we get through this, or should we call it quits? What will happen to the kids if we end our marriage?”

“She blames me for everything but is stuck in her little world and needs help!”

Getting away from it all seems like the best option.

From your standpoint, your wife doesn’t listen to you. The kids are always fighting with each other, primarily because the two of you don’t get along.

It would be nice to have someone who gets who you are – “She doesn’t.” Where did your dreams of having a loving and happy family go?

Something happened along the way. You had fun together, like mountain biking, but things fell apart. Unfortunately, you start feeling blamed again for everything.

There are endless resolutions to your situation, but you think it might be better to give in and say, “It’s all my fault!”

Right now, you feel torn apart.

You still love your partner – you love your kids. But sometimes, all you feel is negativity, including anger toward them or yourself.

Making things better seems impossible, and you keep going in circles, looking for a way out.

Sleep seems impossible each night as you go to bed because you feel stressed and anxious and wake up feeling the same way. Some mornings you don’t feel like getting out of bed at all.

As you lie in bed, you wonder, “If only we would get some help, things could be better.”

Maybe you need to take your advice.

If your partner can’t or won’t reach out for help, maybe you need to lead the way!

Therapy is something you may not have considered. However, you see the need to talk to someone presently.

Think about it. You bring your car to a mechanic. Right? Maybe a therapist can help get your relationship back on track.

Hi, I’m Aaron

I applaud your courage in reaching out for help!

Everyone can and does struggle to summon courage for these steps toward a better space in life. That is one way to describe how we grow, and I encourage clients in this direction.

I can assure you that some people like yourself continue to struggle solo to find solutions. I speak from personal experience because I have been there – stuck in an unhappy, repeating cycle of patterns in my marriage and work, blaming myself or others, yet not always taking responsibility for the things I could change.

It wasn’t easy to decide whether to try to improve things or continue to engage in self-destructive behaviors. Finally, I realized that I reached out for help and started working with a therapist. Therapy helped me learn how I contributed to the struggles in my relationships with my new family.

Through therapy, I learned to recognize my triggers and what my negative feelings (blaming) did to my family. Digging deeper helped me discover that interactions with my new family mirrored the things experienced growing up in my old family. I forgot those confusing times when my caregivers failed to listen to me and sent subtle messages causing me to blame myself for their problems. I repeated old patterns with my new family!

Our relationships improved.

Now, my partner and I have learned to listen to each other instead of attacking now and blaming later. Therapy helps us to re-remember these listening skills.

Now, we give ourselves “date nights” so we can have some time away from our kids and rekindle some of the feelings we had when we first started dating.

Through therapy, you can rekindle your relationship.

Let me help you find a loving and respectful relationship with your partner and family. Through therapy, you can learn to see more clearly where you are stuck and how to get unstuck.

You may be surprised to learn, as I did, that your negative feelings toward your partner and even you go much deeper than you thought. What you experienced growing up may continue to contribute to the “stuck” feelings you are experiencing presently. History tends to repeat itself. But it does not need to.

I have helped many couples and individuals like yourself get to the root causes of their pain and suffering and make the changes needed to turn things around, get unstuck and begin enjoying being with each other again.

Change is always within you! You and only you can make the positive changes you wish and hope to make. I have been helping people for over 20 years in a therapeutic environment to do just that.

Here’s a personal note.

I am a musician, writer, and artist. I have spent years recording music and making art. I, too, am married and have two awesome teenagers!