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About Bonnie Haldeman Pomerantz, MTS, MA
Arguing and fighting have become fixtures in your life.
Your attempts to connect generally result in angry words that increasingly surprise you in their intensity and also lead to despondent crying and feelings of abandonment.
You are avoiding your partner due to resentment or what feels like an unsolvable disconnect between you.
You feel painfully cut off from your partner by their expressed need to “take space” or by your own need to put distance between you.
The constant tension hangs heavy in the air, like a storm cloud that refuses to dissipate.
You yearn for the days when your partner was your confidante, your safe haven.
It feels like every conversation is a ticking time bomb, ready to explode into another round of bitter words and hurtful accusations. The emotional toll is wearing you down, leaving you feeling drained and defeated.
Now, even the simplest exchanges are fraught with tension. It’s as if you’re speaking different languages, unable to bridge the gap that has grown between you. The loneliness that settles in your chest feels suffocating, and you wonder if there’s any way back to the intimacy you once shared.
The once familiar touch now feels foreign, and the distance between you stretches far beyond physical space. Each attempt to reach out, to break through the walls that have been erected, only seems to reinforce the chasm that separates you.
The pain you are feeling from this wall between you is becoming unbearable.
The tears that flow in moments of vulnerability are a testament to the pain that courses through your veins. It’s a pain that feels so raw, so unrelenting, that it threatens to swallow you whole. The sense of abandonment is palpable, a haunting presence that lingers in the spaces between you, a reminder of the connection that has been lost.
Despite your pain, you are still holding on to the possibility of healing.
Yet, amidst this turmoil, there remains a glimmer of hope, a belief that somewhere beneath the layers of resentment and hurt,
there is still love. It’s a fragile ember, flickering in the darkness, but it persists.
And so, you hold on, determined to find a way to bridge the gap, to heal the wounds, and to rediscover the closeness that once defined your relationship.
Hi, my name is Bonnie
Finding genuine and lasting reconnection is possible.
My work is psychotherapeutic and psychoeducational; I have practiced relationship exploration for over 30 years. My joy in my work is to help you address and heal those rifts, helping you find genuine reconnection that is lasting.
I enjoy being a relationship detective, helping you discover the positive features of how you relate to each other. Neither one of you is to blame for your conflict, dis- ease, and painful disconnection from each other.
Together, we will focus on the patterns and behaviors that each of you can change that will help heal your relationship.
The time to take action is now.
I have helped many couples like yourself move from a place of despair and hopelessness to finding renewed connection and love for each other.
In our journey together, you’ll find a safe and nurturing space where you can openly express yourselves. Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. I’m here to guide you in discovering new ways to connect and understand each other. Remember, it’s normal for relationships to face challenges.
It’s a testament to the depth of your connection that you’re seeking help.
With patience, compassion, and dedication, we can unravel the knots that have formed over time.
We’ll celebrate your relationship’s strengths and use them as building blocks to forge a stronger, more resilient bond. Through this process, you’ll not only rekindle your love, but also grow individually.
You’re not alone on this journey.
I’m committed to walking beside you every step of the way. Together, we’ll navigate the twists and turns, ensuring you emerge with a relationship that’s not only enduring but thriving.
Now is the time to take this step towards healing your relationship. Don’t wait until your relationship is on fumes and neither one of you any longer has the will to make the changes that are possible.
Let’s embark on this path of rediscovery and transformation. Your story of reconnection and lasting love is waiting to be written, and I am looking forward to being a part of it.
A few personal notes
Dancing has been a passion for me. I enjoy International Folk dance, English country, freestyle, waltz and swing, and especially Paneurythmy, which I have taught in the hills of Vermont. I’m looking forward to introducing my toddler grandbabies, already great movers, to further joy through movement.